When we are young, we have no problem dreaming big. We dream so big and our imaginations are endless. I remember one time I was asked by my elementary school teacher the classic question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”. I have never been the best at making decisions so I simply wrote out seven of my dream jobs; one for Monday, one for Tuesday, one for Wednesday, and so on. Genius, I know. The most beautiful thing about it is at that age no one told me that’s not possible or why that would be very difficult to be the President of the United States on a Thursday and be a professional basketball player on Friday. When I brought home my master plan to show my parents, I remember my Mom telling me the United States will be so lucky to have me on Thursdays. Bless her.
As kids we are told anything is possible and we are encouraged to dream big. Then at a certain age they decide it’s time to get realistic and they put our young minds in a box. (When I say “they” know it’s just me generalizing society) They break it down for us and tell us why our dreams are only dreams. We are told to pick more tangible dreams because we all can’t become the President of the United States. While that is true, we can’t, but who are they to decide who DOES?
Your dreams are YOUR dreams. No one can create them for you and do NOT let anyone tell you they are impossible. Whatever it is that you want to be, you can be it. As I got older I narrowed down my list of seven dream jobs to one; professional basketball player. I’m now living out my dreams and I broke it down into 3 key steps in how you can do the same.
3 Steps on How to Make Your Dreams Come True
1. DISCOVER your Dreams
The first step in making your dreams come true is discovering your dreams. Spend some time thinking about what you are passionate for. Where are you when you are the happiest? What are you doing? When do you feel the most accomplished? We all have dreams, it’s just a matter of discovering them. Don’t be afraid of dreaming big. Dreams are meant to be big. We’ve all heard the saying, if your dreams don’t scare you, then they aren’t big enough. This couldn't be more true. Discover the dream that sets your heart on fire. Our dreams are meant to be unfathomable. So dream your dreams and don’t be afraid of disappointment or failure. Embrace it. Embrace your dreams and everything that comes with them. You don’t have to know HOW it is possible, at least not in the moment, all you need to do right now is discover your dreams.
2. SHARE your Dreams
Once you have discovered your dreams the next step is to share them. Don’t ever hesitate to share your dreams. When you vocalize your dreams you are acknowledging they exist and it adds some accountability on your end. When I was younger, I would downplay everything I dreamed of. I didn’t want others to judge my dreams, in fact, I didn’t even want them to know what I aspired to be. Of course, I didn’t want to hear that my dreams were too big but I certainly didn’t want others to think I failed if my dreams didn’t come true. So who should you share them with? Everyone. Literally everyone you meet. It wasn’t until I was older that I discovered the power of sharing my dreams with the people around me.
Sharing your dreams is the quickest and most effective way to discover the people you want to surround yourself with. If you are aspiring for greatness and you share your dreams with the people around you, one of two things will happen. They will either belittle your dreams and try to weigh you down or they will support you and lift you up. Build your circle with the people that lift you up. Surround yourself with other dreamers and believers. Your circle should be filled with people that support you, your dreams and want to help make your dreams come true. If your circle isn’t doing these things, it’s time to rebuild. Eliminate the naysayers from your circle, there are enough additional obstacles you will face when trying to reach your dreams.
3. CHASE your Dreams
Discovering your dreams is the easy part, but how will you make sure your dreams turn into reality? Are you willing to chase your dreams? You will have to put your everything into making them come true. But you can do it, don’t let anything stand in your way. It will take a lot of hard work, dedication and most importantly consistency. You can’t expect that your dreams will come true overnight. It’s not that simple. You have to create a plan on how you want to get from where you are now to living out your dreams. You have to set goals. Create deadlines for yourself and be sure to track your progress because each small goal you accomplish means you are one step closer and when things get hard, keep pushing through. There will be times where it seems impossible but then there will also be days when it feels so close you can almost grab it. Enjoy every day of your journey and, to be honest, the journey towards your dreams won’t be easy but I promise you, it will be worth it.
So keep working. Keep dreaming big and one of my personal favorites “shoot for the moon because even if you miss you’ll land among the stars” :)
- Laken James